addressing Extreme Prematurity
Eliminating Sleep-Related Deaths
I have two daughters, an eight-year-old and a one-year-old. With both children, I went through the CenteringPregnancy program for my prenatal care. The founder of Birthing Beautiful Communities, Christin Farmer, came to talk to my group and tell us about the program. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but it sounded like something I needed.
With my second pregnancy, my daughter’s father wasn’t around at all. I was really struggling with feeling alone and stressed before I started going to the classes at BBC.
But once I started going, it was incredible just being around other women and realizing that I wasn’t the only one going through what I was going through. Even if the other women didn’t have the exact same background, I realized we were all dealing with something, and the support made it easier.
"The connections I made were so strong. I actually met one of my best friends, Mya, in the program — we talk all the time and it’s great because our kids are the same age."
Prior to BBC I felt like I had isolated myself. I felt maybe I was ashamed about being pregnant; but the classes really helped me let that go.
The connections I made were so strong. I actually met one of my best friends, Mya, in the program — we talk all the time and it’s great because our kids are the same age.
The biggest benefit is that the staff helped me notice how stressed I was. I didn’t notice I was yelling for no reason. I didn’t realize that I was angry and sad. I thought the way I was feeling was normal. They helped me notice the way I was maneuvering wasn’t healthy for me or my unborn child.
After I recognized it, I was able to talk about it. At the time, I was a private person. I kept my problems, my emotions and my feelings to myself. Having a place where I didn’t feel judged, where someone wouldn’t look down on me, was a blessing.
Before working at BBC, I was working as a state tested nursing aide (STNA). One day, my doula called me and told me that I should apply to BBC. They knew I had taken the classes seriously and would be a good fit as a doula with them. It fell in my lap at the right time.
Because I was a client myself at BBC, I feel like I can empathize with our clients on a different level. I try to be there any way that I can for someone who I know really needs it. I know what it’s like to want to do something and not having the means to do it. I get a natural high off helping people.
Even though I had a doula myself, being on the other side has given me a different perspective and I can see how thankful our clients are for even the smallest gestures. It’s incredibly rewarding.
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